There Is Someone I Want You To Meet

17 03 2009

 Get comfortable people. This is going to be a long one. 

 I have always been someone who keeps my dating adventures (or in the past couple of years, mis-adventures) to myself until I get a sense of where the relationship will go. I never dated a lot so when I did, the questions from my loving peeps came fast and furious. Most of the questions I didn’t have an answer for, so, I decided a long time ago that it would be best if I just kept it to myself for a bit. It always worked out to be about a month or so before I would tell my peeps I had been dating someone new. This system worked very well for me. Well, maybe not so well because none of the relationships turned out to be the “one”, but I think you get my drift.

 When I look back, I can see how the universe has laid everything out perfectly for me. Let me explain;

 I was talking to Auntie Teacher a couple of weeks ago, just shooting the shit. We go on and on about school, work, her broken thermostat in her car, blah, blah, blah when she asks me what’s going on in the dating department. Since I will not lie, even by omission, I tell her that, as a matter of fact, I am going to meet up with a girl next week. I had no plan of sharing this info, but since she asked, I told her. The universe was already at work and was shouting at me to do things differently this time. 

 “Where are you taking her?” 

 “I’m not taking her anywhere! We are meeting at Starbucks to hang out and have coffee!” 

 Notice the ‘tude I had with my peep? That was my way of saying that it was not a date, it was hanging out. Although she seemed really nice, easy to talk to, and not a weirdo, I felt the need to continue to not quiet cross over the “date” line. Auntie Teacher, being the amazing and supportive friend that she is, in a very calm voice simply said;

“OK, let me know how it goes.”

 Fast forward to the next day when I am driving in to work with Boss. She’s talking and talking about the boys in her life, the kids, the job, blah, blah, blah, when she asks me what’s going on in the dating department.

 What the fuck people, get out of my head!

 So I give her the scoop.

 “What’s her name?”

 “Her name is __________, but until further notice, she will be refered to as ‘the girl’!”

 “OK Auntie, calm down. We’ll call her “the girl” if it makes you feel better. So tell me what you know about her.”

 So for the rest of the ride in I tell Boss what I know; she’s 32, a SPED teacher, two sisters, two nieces and a nephew, she likes to read, wants to have kids (this is a deal breaker for me. I wouldn’t have bothered going out with her if she didn’t.), is in school, likes to go camping, and been single for enough time to get over her ex. I go on to say that it seems like we  have a lot in common, including our personal beliefs, values, and how we view the world and that I am “cautiously optimistic.”

 So, the girl and I talk and email before we go to “hang out”. We actually had planned to meet up earlier but because of both of our schedules, we were practicly killing ourselves to me mindful of each others time. She has work and school, I have work and school. Typically if a girl said to me “Hey, sounds like you have a busy day, why don’t we plan on another day” I would have thought she was trying to back out of the date hanging out. With the girl though, I only felt like she was being understanding and respectful of my time. We planned for Tuesday.

 She was already at Starbucks when I got there. When I walked in and saw her sitting there, her sparkling eyes and warm welcoming smile made me feel right at home. When  I sat down and we started talking, it felt like I was meeting up with an old friend. I knew instantly that this was going to be different.

 It was easy to talk to her. She put me so at ease that I could just be myself. She talked, I listened. I talked she listened. We laughed, we smiled, I realized that I could not let this girl go with out asking her out again.

 No way, no how.

 I stopped listening and started thinking about exactly how I was going to ask her out again. Don’t worry, I have already apologized to her for not being a good listener and she accepted. 

 When it was time to go, I told her that I really enjoyed myself  and I wanted to see her again if she was up for it. She said she was and we made plans to hang out go on another date on Sunday. 

 I told her I would call her in a couple of days. She said OK and we parted ways.

 I got in the car, thought that I was a moron for saying I would call her in a couple of days because I wanted to call her tomorrow. Since I said it I had to stick to it.  

 From there I drove to Boss’s office. I walked in, Boss took one look at me and said “Oh boy, Auntie!! It went well!! Tell me all about it! I am so excited for you!” while bouncing on her toes and clapping her hands. 

 The girl and I talked on Thursday. We kept each other up WAY past our bedtimes. Friday morning I sent Boss a text message that said “Boss, I really like __________.” The next time I talked to Boss, she said that she new that the girl was different because I used her name and that she was really happy for me. She also said it was about fucking time I met someone.

 In the interest of time (I have to get ready for work), I am turning this post into a Ten Things Tuesday;

1. I asked the girl permission to blog about her, she said yes. She wanted to know when I was planning on introducing her to you all and I told her when I could come up with a pseudonym for her. I told her that I was planning on starting the story as “the girl.” She said she liked it and wanted to be referred to as the girl. I explained that to me, “the girl” was not really a term of endearment. She maintained that she liked it though. At that, Chili came to mind. Chili has what she calls capital “G” girlfriends. I told the girl that I would start by calling her “the girl” and then as the story went on, she would become “The Girl” with caps. The Girl said that she liked that so  from this point forward, she is The Girl.

2. Chili elluded to The Girl in this post. I understand what she meant when she wrote “and it’s about time” but it is VERY important to note that before The Girl, I was happy. The truth is I love my life and didn’t feel like I was lacking anything. Sure, I wanted a partner but I did not need one, per say. The Girl and I have talked extensively about this and we are both in agreement that neither one of us was looking for someone to “complete” each other. 

3. The Girl and I are also in agreement that a big piece of why this is working out is because we came into it from a very healthy place in our lives both emotionally and spiritually. We have both done a lot of work to get here and we have made a commitment to continue to nurture ourselves first. I have always maintained that I can’t give away what I don’t have. When I take care of myself, the people in my life also reap the fruits. 

4. When telling SLM1 about The Girl, she said that she was so happy for me and she could tell something was different. That meant a lot to me because I am being very mindful to do this differently. The old ways just didn’t work. Everything about this is different and that is a good thing.

5. I very quickly developed feelings for The Girl. I struggled with wanting to take things slow but at the same time, trust my heart. Both Chili and SLM1 reminded me that I am in a place in my life where I can trust myself and that I will know exactly what to do. Thank you ladies, you were right. If you had asked me a few weeks ago if I would be in this place with The Girl, I would have said no. Today though, I can say that I am trusting myself and following my heart. Everything about this is right and I am exactly where I want and need to be.

6. I have made up my mind not to be scared about this. I have already had some feelings from my past that have come up. The Girl and I are talking them out. I trust her enough to allow myself to be vulnerable. I am pleased to say that the couple of times I have had scary feelings, I was given the space I needed to deal, and the respect of being heard and validated. Because of this I have come full circle from being afraid and throwing a wall up to moving through my shit in a healthy way. I have said it to The Girl already, but I would like to say it to her again here; Thank you.

7. Before the second date happened, I knew I wanted The Girl to meet my peeps, and more importantly, my family. This is HUGE for me. How huge, you ask? Well, let me tell you that the last woman I dated NEVER MET MY FAMILY. We dated for 6 months… The Girl has met some of my peeps (and was very well received!) and will meet the fam soon. 

8. Last night with the fam, I asked Punkin and Bean if they wanted to meet The Girl. Punkin was all about it but Bean said “not really”. Bean couldn’t explain why though. I told her that that was fine and I wouldn’t bring her up until she was ready. Chili made a funny face about it and I made it clear to her that I was going to honor Beans feelings. When I told The Girl about it, she said that she absolutely did not want to meet Bean until she was ready. That’s just fucking awesome.

9. The Girl does not like baseball. I told her that I didn’t need her to like baseball but how do you feel about the Yankees? 

 ” I don’t have an opinion about them.” she said

 “Wrong fucking answer! They suck! That is all I need you to know about baseball!”

 She laughed and said  “I would be happy to watch baseball with you. It’s not really about what I’m doing, it’s who I am doing it with that is important.” (TBD, take a page from her book and go to a fucking baseball game with me, would ya?!)

 The next morning she called me and said that she had done some research and then proceeded to tell me that the rilvery between the Sox and spankies started with the trade of The Babe. She continued to tell me about it but I didn’t hear a word because I was so in awe of that seemingly small gesture. Wow.

10. The Girl was going to Dunks and asked me if I wanted a bagel. You should know that The Girl is Pretty health conscience.

 “What would you say if I said I wanted a donut?”

 “I would say; Do you want sprinkles on that?”

 Wow again! 


 The Girl has already been to my blog and has been poking around a bit. She was reluctant at first because she doesn’t know the players. I was reluctant at first because I knew it wouldn’t take her long to figure out that I love to flirt with Kizz (hey Kizz! How you doing?). I told her that my nature is to flirt but that it is harmless. She said she had no issues with it. I told her that was good because it wasn’t going to change. She said she wouldn’t want it to. 

  There is so much more but I gotta get going here. I will end with this; She’s got me peeps. We have shared a lot in the last few weeks, and I will tell you that I am happily falling for her more and more each day and I couldn’t be more grateful that she is in my world.



10 03 2009

 I wasn’t expecting the snow we got. I was kinda pissed about it because I am so ready for spring. This morning I decided to stop at the park before seeing clients. I left a lot less pissed at winter. 










 Some of the pictures are so so but I needed ten..

 Happy Tuesday!

TTT POST Edition

18 11 2008


 I would like to live in a POST and beam house. For the longest time, I wanted a log cabin. Then I decided a post and beam would be nice. Ten things my house must have;

1. An open floor plan downstairs.

2. A kitchen island.

3. A three car garage. Two bays for cars, one for bikes and kid toys.

4. Three bedrooms. One for me and the future Mrs. Auntie, one for each of our kids.

5. The master bedroom must have windows overlooking the driveway.

6.  A farmers porch.

7. One of these bad boys


8. Radiant floor heating.

9. A nice big tub.

10. A dyke den. You know, a room in the basement where I will have a couple of leather recliners and a big TV for watching sports.

 Happy Tuesday!


Photo credit: House, swing

Ten Things Tuesday

28 10 2008

 I haven’t had much to say lately and I am not sure why. Plenty of stuff has been happening, I just haven’t been blogging about it. I decided when I started this blog that I would write when I felt like it and when I didn’t, I wouldn’t feel bad about it. There you have it. So, this weeks TTT is just a run down of what I have been up to lately.

1. Today, I had a shitty day at work. There are some things going on that I just don’t like. I am not sure how to deal with them but I KNEW today was not the day to do it.

2. I went to Bosses Halloween party over the weekend. I decided I wanted to be something really scary so I went as Sarah Palin. People, for the most part, thought it was a great costume and I walked around telling people I could see Russia from my house. One guy didn’t think it was so funny. Joe 12 pack( read drunk out of his mind) went off on me about how bad Obama is. Jesus was there too and when Joe 12 pack didn’t shut up, Jesus and I had a friendly debate. People, Jesus really is for McCain/Palin, just like she said. Anyway, Jesus was really nice and he knew his shit. Our conversation ended by us both agreeing that it is really cool that we get to choose who we want and that it was cool that we could have very different views but have a nice, respectful conversation. When we parted ways, Joe 12 pack was still talking. 

3. I got to spend a little time with Auntie Teachers family which was great. They have always been so nice and welcoming to me and for that, I am so grateful. 

4. Been doing lots and lots of reading for school. I like readin’.

5. Didn’t end up carving the pumpkins this weekend. The Room-Mate was late getting home.

6. My client had a very frustrating experience with the receptionist at the very busy health center. I heard her raising her voice from across the noisy waiting room. I decided I needed to intervene and as I walked up she said several times “I don’t understand what you are telling me!” By the time I got up there, she had dropped the F bomb. The lady tried to explain the situation to me but I couldn’t understand because of her thick accent either. I remained calm and asked her to get the nurse. The nurse cleared it all up for us. After, I tried to explain to my client that getting upset wasn’t going to get her what she needed. She was able to see what I had done to resolve the situation as well as where she could have done things differently. Good stuff.

7. I am really craving Auntie Teachers chocolate cheesecake. She makes the best cheesecake ever. Hint, hint.

8. I can not wait to vote! I love voting!

9. I am re-watching John Adams because I am using part of it for a group project for school. I LOVED the series and I am glad I have an excuse to watch it again!

10. Gentleman, you may want to stop reading here! I warned you! So, I managed to not get a headache or the blahs after my period ended this month! Yippee!

Peace out peeps!

Ten Things Tuesday

22 10 2008

  This weeks ten things is brought to you by my friend MST! It is late because I asked her to guest post late Monday afternoon. Technically, she had it done on Tuesday but I was sound asleep by the time it reached my in box. Here goes;

Hi! My name is MST, and I’m an alcoholic. Really. Now don’t
fret…this isn’t a mellowdramatic Lifetime movie or after-school
special. It’s just my life…a life that has improved exponentially
since October 15, 2002-the day after my last alcoholic drink …as of
today. Last week, I celebrated 6 years of sobriety, and Auntie asked
me to write about ten things that have improved in that time for her
Ten Things Tuesday. To be honest, it’s hard to pull out just 10, but
I’ll do my best.

1. My basic physical health.

2. My ability to forgive.

3. My ability to empathize.

4. My relationship with my family.

5. My relationships with friends, and my ability to be a friend.

6. My ability to actually have fun and LAUGH!!!

7. My ability to have any and all feelings…and cope with them.

8. My ability to own my part, take responsibility for mistakes, but
also see what’s NOT mine.

9. My ability to relax.

10. My sex life. 🙂

I would love to elaborate, and really, sobriety has given me so much
more and continues to do so, but I’m running out of Tuesday, and I’m
exhausted! Just know that my whole life has improved. Is it perfect?
Lord, no!!! But I like imperfection!

Ten Things Tuesday

14 10 2008

All I have is randomness people. Sorry. I am working on something for next week though.

1. I finally got a library card today. The truth is, I haven’t been to the library in at least 10 years. I would rather own books. I am not sure why that is. Sometimes I like to re-read them but I usually don’t. Anyway, with the economy in the shitter, I decided one of the ways I can save a few bucks is by going to the library instead of buying all those books.

2. My library is connected to 12 other libraries in the state. Unfortunately, only one is nearby. They will send books over for you though. I ordered one that I need for class. Super cool and saving me 20 bucks!

3. Me and the peeps went to Spooky World on Sunday. It was fun but we didn’t have enough time to ride all the rides we wanted. They sold these flashing necklaces that kept the ghosts and goblins away. No, really. If you wore one the dudes walking around in costume would know not to try and scare you. Anyway, Boy1 got one and I told him I was scared so I was going to stick close to him. Well, we went on this “scary” hunted ride and wouldn’t you know, he insisted on sitting with me and he held that thing up in the air the whole time! My hero!

4. Back to books for a second. I got the second of three that I needed for class on Sunday. It is called Two Or Three Things I Know For Sure by Dorothy Allison. It was a short one, only 94 pages but it was really good. It was one of those books that as soon as it was in my hands, I knew something in it would resonate with me. Page 3 “Two or three thing I know for sure, and one of them is what it means to have no loved version of your life but the one you make.”

5. Me and The Room-Mate got pumpkins on Sunday. Two years ago (before I lived with her) she hosted a pumpkin carving party. Ma came up after we were done and judged them. Mine came in last. This year, I am using my Dremel to carve it. Power tools baby! I’ll post pictures.

6. Lets go Red Sox!

7. Mr. Chili and I had a text fest last night while watching the game. The Sox got their ass kicked. Already in the bottom of the first it is 3-0 Tampa. I am surprised he hasn’t texted me yet. 

8. I met with my academic adviser this morning. I had some questions she couldn’t answer but she pointed me and the right direction. I really want to make sure I take classes that will cover me for the masters program.

9. Have you seen the Travelers Insurance commercial where the man has the giant red umbrella and he helps all the people? I love that commercial. I think it is cute.

10. Lets go Red Sox!! Sorry kids, I am distracted by the game. I gotta go. Peace!

Ten Things Tuesday

23 09 2008

Ten quick things;

1. I am not eating dinner tonight because;

2. I was reading and responding to emails.

3. I was reading blogs.

4. I was talking to SLM1 on the phone.

5. If I eat dinner now, I won’t have room for ice cream and I have to have ice cream!

6. Although I was glad for the “getting to know the University and your cohort members” class, I am looking forward to a real class where I learn stuff I can use at my current job.

7. Cook Man at work is feeding my addiction. I now go to his kitchen for my daily afternoon chocolate snack.

8. The Sox only need to win one game to assure a wild card slot. 

9. I would rather they win the division out right but whatever.

10. I was concerned about having clients in my car who have warrants. I called Ms. Probation and left the following message;

“So, say I am driving down the road with a client and I get pulled over for a traffic violation. If said client has a warrant will I go to jail? And if I do, would you come and bail my ass out?”

 She said no, I would not go to jail. Typically they only arrest people who activley hide the person in question. And yes, she would bail me out.

 Kinda lame TTT this week but the Sox are on and I need some ice cream!

Ten Things Tuesday

16 09 2008

 Ten photos I have taken in the last week or so;


 I swear I found these like this. I wonder if the young man who did this was upset with his mother that day.


My desk at work.

3. My co-workers desk;

 Why am I showing you pictures of our desks? Well, there is a story that goes with them;

“Auntie! What’s up with you desk?” Grumbled my boss with my co-worker sitting in front of him.

“What do you mean ‘What’s up with my desk?’, nothing is up with my desk.”

“Where is it?”

“In my office?”

“Who put it together?”

“I did, I already told you that.”

“You did?! Well, can you help co-worker put his together?”

“Yeah, I’m having trouble with it. I tried to flip it over and it was all rickity.” Says co-worker.

“Did you tighten the cams?”

“Yes, I tightened the cams!” he said all sarcastic.

 So I head on over and put the desk together on my own because he took off. When the boss asked me about it the next day I said;

“He didn’t tighten the cams. When he flipped it he broke one of the bolts because it was loose. I fixed it. I don’t recommend that it be moved much though.”

“What the fuck!!” was all he said.

4. While we are talking about my co-worker;

 My book case.

5. His book case

 I put that together too. Why is it broken??!! Because co-worker sat on it! Men! Oh, for the record, I put the chairs together too.

6. Thank God the cook hooked me up that day. 

 I ate that bad boy on the ride home. Instant stress relief!

7. So Rock Star played this Sunday. There are two important things to note about the following picture.

 One is the hair brush on the table! It’s hard to see, that’s why I added the arrow. Who does that? Yuck! The second is that Rock star allowed the game on while she played. MST and I had a hell of a time looking around her though. Truly, she only moved during commercials. Later she turned on another tv for us. She loves us!

8. I was at the bank at 11am on Sunday when I got this one.

 I am not sure why the picture is so small but the arrow is pointing to an open Coors Light can. Nice, huh? Typically I refrain from name calling but this guy is a moron!

9. September’s player of the month is no longer with us.

 The Room-Mate was so upset about it that she put the magnet over his face. I wish I had a picture of Jason Bay.

10. This one is my favorite.

 If your gonna put up a giant banner for your guy, don’t you think you could have found a better place for it? He does kinda look like a monkey though.

Ten Things Tuesday

2 09 2008

 Nine things I didn’t do and one thing I did;

1. I didn’t unpack the box I packed and placed in my car to go to my new office.

2. I didn’t put the two new desks together in the two new offices.

3. I didn’t put the two new bookcases together either.

4. I didn’t pick up the key to my new office this morning.

5. I didn’t meet with my client at the new office today. Hell, I didn’t even make it to the new office today.

6. I didn’t take or return the four (only, thank God) phone calls I got today.

7. I didn’t make any of the phone calls I should have made today.

8. I didn’t do any of my month end paperwork.

9. I didn’t confirm my 8:30 am appointment with the IT guy for tomorrow to move the computers to the new office.

10. I did sit with a very worried client all day in the ER of the local hospital and (hopefully) eased her fears, supported her, and provided her with some comic relief. I am happy to report she is going to be just fine!

 Tomorrow is going to suck. I’ll be in the new office for 7, hopefully get one desk put together, go to the old office and do the computer stuff (why he needs me there I have no idea), go back to the new office, put the computers back together, meet with my client while I put the second desk together (she said she would love to help), write my drug court reports, go to drug court, rush from there to jail to meet with a client and then  run a group. Maybe I will eat something in between court and jail. Who knows.

Ten Things Tuesday

26 08 2008

 I was going to delete the comment from the Kiss My Face person but then I decided as a service to you, my loyal readers, I would keep it so you could use the code and get the discount if you are so inclined. Then I got to thinking that maybe, just maybe if I listed some other products I use,  they would send me codes too! Let’s give it a whirl;

1. Breyers chocolate ice cream. 

I love this stuff and have for years. For plain chocolate, nobody does it better then Breyers. I eat it almost every day. Sometimes the store doesn’t have it and that makes me feel sad.

2. Starbucks coffee. 

 The extra bold Italian roast is my favorite. 

3. Milk

Milk is never on sale. Why is that? Besides coffee, it is my favorite thing to drink. I can go through a gallon in two days easily.

4. Soap

 The price of soap is pretty reasonable but I wouldn’t mind a coupon for it.

5. Tampons

 I get irritated every time I have to fork over good money for these things! And no, it’s not because of PMS smart ass!

6. Toothpaste

 I like Tom’s and use it even though it is more expensive than regular toothpaste.

7. My phone plan

Shouldn’t I get a deal because I have been a customer for soooo long? Give me a break! And, when almost all of my friends use the “Can you hear me now?” dude, I stayed true. Show a girl some love, would ya!

8. I know, it’s a stretch but, gas.

 I’ll take any coupons from any local gas stations except Mobil or Exxon. I won’t buy gas from homophobes.  There is actually a place by Chili’s and a place by the court house selling gas for $3.49 a gallon. I so wish it was $2.49 a gallon.

9. Laundry soap and dryer sheets


 I am only thinking of this now because I need both products. Please hurry with the coupons because I do my laundry on Saturdays.

10. Boursin cheese

 This stuff is so good! I just ate a hamburger with it. It is also great on a baked potato or crusty bread. At $3.99 for a tiny package, I don’t buy it very often. Yum!

 Except for the gas, I am loyal to all of the above brands and have been for years.  








Photo credit; Breyers, Starbucks, Hood milk, Olay Soap, Tampax, Tom’s of Maine, AT&T, Shell, Tide, Bounce, Boursin